April 29th- May 4th Life Group Notes

Open in Prayer 

• Welcome/Introductions/Cast Vision – Remind the Life Group of the Guidelines– See bottom of page.

•  Doing the Mission: Did anyone share Jesus or last week’s passage?  

• Does anyone have a God story? An undeniable encounter or experience with God that creates an impact or  breakthrough in your day-to-day life. These moments can be extraordinary or very humble, but always  personally powerful. 

• Opening Question: Who was the best counselor you ever had? Why was this person special to you? 

• Share background for the passage:   : Jesus is preparing his disciples on how to live when He is gone. He is teaching them the importance of loving and obeying His commands, and He, the Father and the Holy Spirit are one.                    
• Thought/Focus: How does Jesus explain the importance of having a loving relationship with Him? 
• Have someone read this week’s passage: John 14:15-27  

Discuss these questions: Go deeper as led. Remember Head, Heart, Hands. 

1.   How are the disciples to show love to each other? To Jesus? (14:15) 
2.   Why is this idea repeated four times? (vs. 15,21,23-24) 

 3.  What do you learn about the Holy Spirit in verses 16-17, and 25-27?
 4.  What is the relationship of the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit to the believer?
 5.  What is the difference between how Jesus gives peace and how the world does?
 6.  How has the Holy Spirit revealed Himself in your life?
 7.  Of all the promises made here (vv. 16-18,21,23,26-27), which one means the most to you?
 8.  On a scale of 1 to 10, (10 being the most), what is your peace quotient?
 9.  Where do you need Jesus’ peace right now in your life?

Next week’s passage/story: TBD

• Dismiss in Prayer   
  

CONFIDENTIALITY: What is said in the group  stays in the group.
 
LISTEN: Let’s value one another during the  discussions by really listening to what is  being shared. Try to avoid thinking about  how you are going to respond or what you  are going to say next.
 
PAUSE: Allow a pause in conversation after  someone shares. Give the person sharing a  chance to finish and the group the  opportunity to consider what was just  shared before responding.

NO “CROSS TALK”: Be considerate of others  as they are sharing- no side conversations.

NO FIXING: We are not here to fix each  other. Jesus does that part. Speak truth is love, give  
encouragement, empathize,  point to Jesus.  You may share  solutions God has led you through. The  other person should never feel shame or  failure, but rather connection & hope.

NO HIJACKING of shared stories.

NO RESCUING: When people are sharing  something deeply personal, there can be a  tendency to try to make them feel better  about themselves or the situation by  providing immediate condolences. This will  often cause them to stop sharing. Resist the  temptation to rescue people.
 
SHARING: Be sensitive about the amount of time  you share.
 
SILENCE: It is important to allow silence in the  group as it provides an opportunity for someone  else to share and for members in the group to  process the topic or question being considered.

BE SELF-AWARE: Be self-aware of how you are  personally affecting the environment through your  words, actions, and non-verbal communication.
 
“I” STATEMENTS: It’s easy to talk about the issues  of others, but for our purposes, we want you to put  yourself on the table. Try to use “I” statements rather than “them”, "they", "you", “the church”, “us”, “we”, etc.
 
FIGHT FOR RELATIONSHIP: We will commit to resolve conflict  biblically. When conflict or sin issues arise between  group members, we want to make sure that  we are honoring God and each other in the way we  deal with these issues. We will fight for  relationship.  I will discuss the struggle with the person I am in conflict with first, & if not resolved, seek wise advice. The following are a few key Scriptures  in this regard (there are many others.)

• If someone sins against you: Mat. 18:15-20
• Restoring someone in sin: Gal. 6:1-5 
• Forgive a sinner: Col. 3: 12-13 
• Reconciling differences: Mat. 5:23-24, Mat. 7:1-5