October 14th- October 19th Life Group Notes

Open in Prayer 

• Welcome/Introductions/Cast Vision - Remind the Life Group of the Guidelines- See bottom of page.

•  Doing the Mission: Did anyone share Jesus or last week's passage?  

• Does anyone have a God story? An undeniable encounter or experience with God that creates an impact or breakthrough in your day-to-day life. These moments can be extraordinary or very humble, but always personally powerful. 

• Opening Question: Who was/is the best friend you ever had? What was special about him or her?

• Share background for the passage:  David has written a song about how fully & intimately God know everything about us. He includes the fact that He is always with us everywhere & is constantly thinking about us. In the middle of this song are the verses that talk about how wonderfully He created us!
• Thought/Focus: What emotions do you think were filling David’s heart when he wrote this?   
• Have someone, or a couple of people, read this week's passage: Psalm 139:13-18

Discuss these questions: Go deeper as led. Remember Head, Heart, Hands.

1.  When does David see his life as beginning? (vs. 13) 
2.  Did David see his life as an accident or mistake? (vs.14) 

 3.  What is his response to his Creator? (vs. 14)
 4.  Why do you believe God had David be so specific about his early life in the womb?                (vss.  15-16)
 5.  How does this make you feel about your pre-born life? Why?
 6.  Do you believe God orders all your days? Even the hard ones?
 7.   What is your hearts response to God constantly thinking of you? Do you return the                 favor?
 8.   How can you use this passage to speak the truth in love, about abortion, with others?
 9.   Do you believe God wants us to speak up for those with no voice? Will you, when He            prompts you to?
Next week's passage/story: 1Timothy 1:5-11 

• Dismiss in Prayer   
  

CONFIDENTIALITY: What is said in the group stays in the group.
 
LISTEN: Let's value one another during the  discussions by really listening to what is  being shared. Try to avoid thinking about  how you are going to respond or what you  are going to say next.
 
PAUSE: Allow a pause in conversation after someone shares. Give the person sharing a  chance to finish and the group the  opportunity to consider what was just  shared before responding.

NO "CROSS TALK": Be considerate of others  as they are sharing- no side conversations.

NO FIXING: We are not here to fix each  other. Jesus does that part. Speak truth is love, give  
encouragement, empathize,  point to Jesus.  You may share  solutions God has led you through. The  other person should never feel shame or  failure, but rather connection & hope.

NO HIJACKING of shared stories.

NO RESCUING: When people are sharing  something deeply personal, there can be a  tendency to try to make them feel better  about themselves or the situation by  providing immediate condolences. This will  often cause them to stop sharing. Resist the  temptation to rescue people.
 
SHARING: Be sensitive about the amount of time  you share.
 
SILENCE: It is important to allow silence in the  group as it provides an opportunity for someone  else to share and for members in the group to  process the topic or question being considered.

BE SELF-AWARE: Be self-aware of how you are  personally affecting the environment through your  words, actions, and non-verbal communication.
 
"I"STATEMENTS: It's easy to talk about the issues  of others, but for our purposes, we want you to put  yourself on the table. Try to use "I" statements rather than "them', "they", "you", "the church", "us", "we", etc.
 
FIGHT FOR RELATIONSHIP: We will commit to resolve conflict  biblically. When conflict or sin issues arise between  group members, we want to make sure that  we are honoring God and each other in the way we  deal with these issues. We will fight for  relationship.  I will discuss the struggle with the person I am in conflict with first, & if not resolved, seek wise advice. The following are a few key Scriptures  in this regard (there are many others.)

• If someone sins against you: Mat. 18:15-20
• Restoring someone in sin: Gal. 6:1-5 
• Forgive a sinner: Col. 3: 12-13 
• Reconciling differences: Mat. 5:23-24, Mat. 7:1-5